May 13th, 2005

Right so something is over, you know there's very little chance you will pick it up. You quit or the other person quit and that's how it is, the post-relationship situation. What do you do with "left overs"? When I look in my address book I see some left overs. Sometimes it's almost like I don't want to look because I don't want to see a name that used to mean something. Have you ever been there? What do you do when you encounter such a "break up", do you remove all traces so that you don't remind yourself of it? Or do you think maybe it'll come in handy sometime to have that address, it would be hasty to get rid of it now?

I now have a couple of those entries I'm considering throwing out but I haven't yet. Does that mean something? Probably that I'm slow to deal with these things, that it takes a long time before I can say I'm not thinking about it anymore. Is that a bad thing? Should I be quicker to forget?

To change the subject completely, I was looking at some photography sites the other day and decided it was time the world would see my holiday snapshots, so I registered an account at the mainstream deviantart and the more upscale caedes.

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4 Responses to "detachment"

  1. Erik says:

    Nice pictures. Didn't know you took the Aladdin shot! I was thinking of going down there myself but now I don't have to anymore, thanks :D

    Regarding the address situation: I never erase them. Those people were once in my life and played a (big) part in the creation of who I am now. Therefor, in order not to forget, I keep their addresses.

  2. numerodix says:

    In context of the rationale in the blog entry: yes but doesn't it hurt to see those names knowing that maybe you didnt' part on the best terms and you miss them? (Humor me, assume that you do wish you still were in touch with them..)

    Otherwise: Would you really forget them? If they played a big part in defining you, don't you remember them?

  3. Erik says:

    I suppose you would but I like to have it in black and white and read through it every once in a while.

    Some memories can hurt, that is true. But most of the times I flip through my address book and think of the pleasant memories. Fainted pictures from the basement of my brain.

    I guess it's very personal but over time, I learnt that the "What ifs" are nothing more than torture and I learnt not to go there anymore. Yes of course I sometimes secretly wish that things had gone different (that I DID things differently) and yes of course this sometimes hurts when I'm confronted with it but the pleasant memories are so much more important to me and I value emotional pain in a certain way too...

  4. numerodix says:

    Hm.. it depends on "where" I am in the process of dealing with stuff. If I'm not too bothered by it then yeah I tend to remember the positive moments but when I'm in pain I don't and I don't want to either.

    With time I just get indifferent and forget.